Children and Self Esteem
Children and self esteem: A low self esteem usually develops throughout your life and through the experiences you’ve had had a child and while you were growing up. Having a poor self image doesn’t mean that you are worthless, it just means that you’ve had previous experiences that give you that perception. An English physician, John Bowlby, created the attachment theory that suggests that parenting strategies and caregivers have an effect on a child’s well-being and self esteem. When a parent is close both emotionally and physically the child is able to explore the world feeling safe. A parent or caregiver is there to help the child should they be frightened, hurt, fatigue or sick. The parent continues to support the child as they grow up, having an impact on their self-views. Different types of parent/caregiver relationships have been studied with three types identified: Secure, avoidant and ambivalent. Secure relationships: Children and self esteem: Parents who are warm, sensitive and attentive to their children bring up children with a good self esteem. Children whose parents/caregiver were sensitive and positive to their needs were found to have a higher self esteem, were more confident and self-directed. Avoidant relationships: Parents who are constantly annoyed, brusque, cold and insensitive. Children whose parents/caregivers who are cold and negative had difficulty developing peer friendships, lacked self-esteem and were troublesome and put themselves down. Ambivalent relationships: A parent/caregiver who is positive, but inconsistent in their responses also damaging to a child’s self esteem. Tips for Developing Self-Esteem in children: Children and self esteem: Try these simple, every day techniques to help your child develop a positive high self esteem. 1. Love and care about your child – this gives them a sense of belong, security and support. 2. Spend time with your child. They learn by your example. Play games, read, talk, teach them things. 3. Clear discipline: Gently reinforce the limits. Praise the good things they do. 4. Respect: Teach your child respect by respecting them. Children learn by watching. Apologise when you are wrong and use manners such as please and thank you. 5. Active Listening: Listen with your eyes and your ears when you child speaks. Giving them your attention tells them that they are worth and helps to build self esteem. 6. Be realistic: We’re all human and make mistakes. Don’t expect perfection from your child. This puts a lot of pressure on them. 7. Decision making: Help your child make their own decisions by showing them the pros and cons. Don’t make speeches or force your opinion. Guide them in making their own wise choices.
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